Expanding my vocabulary 28 June 09
Posted by Fantastic Four in Random Thoughts on Stuff.Tags: Project P, vocabulary
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The term of the day:
nuchal translucency scan
Motivated? 15 April 09
Posted by Fantastic Four in Life, Projects, Random Thoughts on Stuff.Tags: motivation, Projects
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As many will know from my neverending project ideas, I get excited quite often about different things that pop into my mind. Last year I wanted to buy a giant sized map and stick it on my wall to record on it all the places I have been around the world, few months ago I bought a drawing tablet for N to build our own little T-shirt design empire, last week I have been toying about organising a holiday house on the Mediterranean shores of Turkey in 2010 for our family and friends, next week I will contemplate having a child and make it into a gigantic project of collossal proportions, and probably next month I will think of something else to get excited about. I still have lingering thoughts on making my linguistic ramblings into a multi-lingual wonderful blog. Will it happen? Seriously, I think not.
But, to tell you the truth, out of every 100 projects I jot down every day, probably 0.5 of them ever gets to the planning then implementing stage. Why? Because I lose the motivation as soon as the first excitement period is over. Most of the time I actually forget all about the project as soon as I think it. I get distracted by something else.
It seems I can’t stay motivated enough on something no matter how excited or enthusiastic I might be about it.
I want this to change so I came up with a project. I am so excited about it!!!!! Since habits are formed by repeated actions and behaviours, why not make “continuous motivation” a habit. So all I have to do is practice following through with a project. Take it from thought realm into planning phase then implement it and see the results. If I do this long enough it will become a habit and my life will be less cluttered with wonderful ideas which never came to be realised.
That’s all for today.
I will now think about what to start with…
By the way, date on this photo should be something like 2007 not 2004; 2007 my first visit ever to Ireland.
What I Don’t Know I Can’t Fix 4 February 09
Posted by Fantastic Four in Life, Random Thoughts on Stuff.Tags: worst form of punishment
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The worst kind of punishment someone can give to someone else. It’s not shouting abuse, not swearing at, not arguing, not telling what bothers one about the other, not communicating what the problem is if there is one, but simply ignoring anything one says. As if the other does not exist. Seeing right through as if the other is transparent. Responding or engaging in a conversation? It feels a bit like an exhausting favour.
What would you do if this happened to you? Would you ask the person what is wrong, or what you have done wrong? Would you keep quiet and just wish for it to change? Would you walk away and ignore them back?
You see I don’t like ignoring, because it is too painful if it happens to me that I don’t think it’s fair to do it to anyone. I may be too sad and go quiet for a while, but mostly I just try to talk about it. I can’t fix anything I don’t know, so I ask to see if it’s something I have said or done.
And if I have a problem with something someone has said or done, I just tell them what bothers me. In the past, when I did this I thought it would be ok, because I prefer that I get told what the problem is. I think like the other person has a right to know as it is regarding them or something they have done or said. I don’t like them any less for it, but I might be annoyed or irritated or simply I don’t agree and I say it as it is. This could come across as confrontation but to me it is the best way of communicating, gives a chance to talk it out. Or simply agree to disagree at the end, and that’s fine, too.
But I suspect that sometimes if someone ignores me because they don’t like me, then there is nothing I can do about it. How do I make sure that this is the way though? Can I just walk right up to them and ask “Do you not like me?” If they don’t want to come across as a mean person, they probably just say “What are you on about?” The person simply doesn’t like me perhaps. Then of course I wonder why it is that they don’t like me? It must have been something I have repeatedly done, said, that bothered them. The way I look? The way I talk? The way I walk? What is it? If it’s something I would also like to change, I would. And I don’t know what it is, I just get the silent treatment so I will never know. Sometimes knowing won’t help me fix it. Can’t make someone like me, and in that case it is not enough that I like them either.
It’s not a win win situation, the silent treatments. I prefer anytime a good old argument or stone cold truth slapped on my face than being ignored.
PS: I might be over-sensitive and over-analysing. Only because I care.
gaudium de gaea 